Yesterday, I got this interesting query from one of my clients.
"My partner doesn’t trust me. She always thinks I am cheating when I might just be sleeping or working. How can I make her trust me?"
Below was how I answered him and I recreate this post for everyone who is facing the same situation.
"This feeling of your partner might come from their past traumatic experience. They might have been treated similarly by their past partners, who they later found out that they have been cheated on for a quite long time.
It is no one’s fault. These are due to traumatic experiences.
These traumatic past experiences have been holding tightly on your partner’s mind. And those remind them of the same experience when they are exposed to a similar situation. And that's why they react in a particular way.
Due to the memories, your partner thinks that if you are not talking to him or her for some time because of your busy schedule, you might be cheating.
At times, for your partner, it’s like they are dating two people at the same time. One is the present partner, YOU, and the other is their past partner who gave them traumatizing experiences. They tend to constantly compare past situations with present ones."
So, How To Make Your Partner Trust You?
Communication is the KEY to everything.
Firstly, you will have to trust yourself and sit and talk to your partner.
You will have to let your partner know that you trust them and your relationship and that you see a good future with them.
Take interest in what your partner says and why is that they feel so. And for this, you will have to talk to your partner to step out of her memories and try to leave behind whatever happened and try to look and live in the present situation with you.
Instead of reacting to your partner’s thoughts try to create a positive balance in the relationship through communication. Because reacting to such a situation will almost always lead to negative aspects, such as doubts in your mind, and this degrades your relationship in the future.
Now, ask this to yourself:
- Are you happy with your partner?
- Is your partner also dealing with such a situation?
- Are you always in stress thinking about certain relationship problems?
Message me to unleash all the reasons and solutions for it.
With love ❤️
Thida Aung
Mar 12, 2023 (Sunday)
